Showing posts from May, 2008

Love and respect are important foundations for a lasting marriage

Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needsby Emerson Eggerichs (Thomas Nelson, 2004) remains on the top 10 Publishers Weekly Religion Bestseller's list for May.

Several people left glowing reviews of the book on

After reading the description of the contents of this book, I would recommend it to those who are married or thinking of getting married someday.

David and I have been married since 1975. The solid foundations of our marriage include these two pillars: love and respect.

I'm fortunate that as a young Biola student in 1971, I had the opportunity to study women's topics under a woman who taught the importance of respecting a husband. I took these teachings to heart. This may sound like an easy concept to put into practice but it wasn't. I didn't come from a family environment that respected men and the cultural wisdom didn't teach liberated women to respect men, especially in a marriage relationship.

After practi…

Will you cheer in heaven?

It will be a roll call of the ages for the young and the aged ...

I was thinking about heaven as we watched our beloved Lauren graduate. We sat in the bleachers with other parents, family members and friends. We watched as hundreds of college graduates walked across the stage one by one, shook hands with school administrators, and headed off into their futures.

Yesterday, at Towson University, when each name was called, a pocket of cheers erupted from various areas of the audience. We waited for our turn to cheer.

Towson administrators sped up the process. Graduates formed into two lines on either side of the platform. As a name was called, a graduate walked onto the stage. While that graduate was shaking hands with an administrator, the next graduate's name was called and that graduate stepped onto the stage from the other side. The graduates would then stride toward the center and descend stairs to return to their seats. In this way, administrators called out a graduate's name…

Twitter: 12 reasons why a CEO at Thomas Nelson thinks it has merit

Michael Hyatt, CEO of Thomas Nelson recently blogged 12 Reasons to Start Tweetering .

He writes well and makes a convincing case to at least try the new technology that is faster than text messaging. Among his reasons for twittering for 30 days is it's free, it forces concise writing, allows him to make new friends, and forces him to think about what he is doing and is that how he wants to spend his life.

How about you? If you twitter, what do you like about it? Or, what don't you like about twittering?

An unexpected gift

I don't often think of mistakes being a good thing. I'm trying to change that attitude. There is a lot we can learn from mistakes. Although I know that in my head, I try hard not to make mistakes.

Even with my best efforts, mistakes happen.

I made one a few days ago. When I was sending out emails about ideas to update our church website, I included a wrong email address in the distribution list. Not everyone in our group received the email and someone in Wisconsin I'd never met did.

When she read the email, she also clicked on the eMinistry blog link. Sequoias caught her attention. In her email to me later, where she graciously let me know of my mistake, she said the mistake must have been of God. We are kindred spirits in our faith and our love of trees.

She's a gifted artist and an art teacher. She sent me a .jpg of a pastel drawing of a sequoia towering above other trees that she completed last month. Stunning.

Some mistakes can yield a gift of beauty. This one did…

You're invited to visit our new eMinistry blog

The eMinistry blog is now up and running. If you are a Christian writer, blogger or member of a website team, you may be interested in e-Salt and Light.

On e-Salt and Light we discuss articles, resources, observations and topics that may be interest to communicators who use the new media to share God's love and truth.

If you aren't a communicator, come on over anyway. We have no sign-up sheets or writing tests. You don't even have to like technology all that much. We try to cut through the technical jargon and use English so any interested person can follow the conversation and add their thoughts.

We would love to hear your suggestions and comments.

Why do we make time to communicate across four generations?

Communication is simple and complicated.

Communication is simple because we care about one another. Communication is complicated because communicating across generations is work and potmarked with potential misunderstandings. We don't always speak one another's language. We don't always agree on what is important. We don't always understand why someone said or did certain things, or why they didn't. We want to be understood and aren't always. We try to understand but sometimes can't unless we can talk some things out. Love, listening and forgiveness bridge the gaps that could make communication across the generations difficult if not impossible.

Love seeks what is best for another.

Love lets the other be the unique person that God intended.
Love allows others to do what they believe is right
Even if love is silent, love isn't silent.
Listening lays the groudwork for glimmers of understanding to grow.
When a baby cries in excitement or pain, older generations l…

How do you communicate across four generations?

Four generations of our family celebrated a college graduation and a baby shower last week in Lancaster, Pennsylvania. These were reasons enough for four generations of family members to carve out time and travel to be together for a few days.

Some families stay in touch by talking on the phone weekly, daily or even several times a day. Our family uses the phone less frequently most weeks, but we make an effort to gather for some special events.

These years the events that attract the oldest generation to travel across country are graduations and baby showers. As health permits, Pat attends the major celebrations that mark this time in her grandchildren's lives.

The youngest generation is too young to complain. Alea and the babies-yet-to-come go where they are carried.

The sandwich generations do what they can to attend special events when time and budgets allow.

The baby boomers have more time to visit when work schedules allow. We value keeping in touch with adult children, growing g…

Banish the technical

After posting several items about Web sites, Web marketing and eMinistry, I've decided those topics were beginning to sidetrack me from the main purpose of this blog, so I have banished them to their own blog.

I'll share more information on this when it is available.